Dating after divorce and teenagers
Now, it must feel like there is an intruder in your life-one who is interfering with your relationship with your dad. Other children of divorced parents often share the same sorts of feelings.I wouldn't be surprised if you are angry and jealous not just at your father's girlfriend but also toward her son. Second, the divorced parent is often so happy to be in a new relationship that s/he begins to spend less alone time with their children.Let's see if things can settle down so that you feel better. If his mom is still around and in the picture somewhere, it would seem natural to feel that his dad's attention should still be towards his mother if all was right with the world.It seems to me that adults who divorce, and all the people who are quick to recommend a divorce, and who typically subscribe to the theory that kids are traumatized by parents who sleep with people other than their other biological parent when it's called an "affair", will then also subscribe to the theory that these same kids are instantly just fine with it and should show love and support for the new "lover" the very moment divorce papers are signed just because it is now "socially acceptable". Bad feelings about their parents' attention to new lovers can linger for many years.Lots of teen boys in that situation can feel a whole range of jealousy Sad Teen did not mention.I can well remember how attracted I felt towards a friend's dad's new young girlfriend.
Before my dad was dating this woman I would always watch TV shows and even stay up late with my brother and dad most of the time.I can certainly understand why this makes you uncomfortable.Finally, the dating parent may try to recreate a new family too quickly and before everyone is ready for this.My first bit of advice to you is to speak to your father alone and let him know that you miss him.Explain how important alone time with him (and perhaps with your brother) is.
It sounds like you have enjoyed your relationship with your father for a long time.